I have learned an incredible lesson the last couple of months. It is so difficult to find love when pain is so blatant and rampant. In light of the recent elections and our new president, there has been so much pain, fear and uncertainty. It seems like in today’s world, love, kindness and human decency have gone out the window. I’ve learned, we must love each other. We must love for ourselves.
Zachary recently experienced his own painful experience at the hands of a bully. Someone who was supposed to be his friend, turned on him and physically hurt him. While the details are unimportant, my son was physically hurt at the hands of another in the exact area where my son has had three (3) previous surgeries. After bruising and severe swelling which affected Zachary’s medical procedures, we fought to remove Zachary from his school. In what proved to be a long and tedious fight to protect our son, Zachary grew angry. He grew to resent one culture of individuals because this individual and the other bullies in his class are this specific nationality. Scott and I have tried diligently to help him deal with the pain and betrayal, but explaining forgiveness to a 9 year old can be very difficult. I’m 39 and I don’t understand it!
With time, Zachary has grown less angry. He’s far from where he needs to be, but he is still moving forward. He is learning to advocate for himself, he is learning that his parents will fight until the death for his well-being, and he is learning that the Lord can step in and help him along the way to forgiving this supposed friend. Zachary will never play with this friend again, however, Zachary is learning to forgive so that he can let the anger go.
One very important lesson that I learned from all of this is that we must find the love even in our most difficult and painful times. We must love each other, we must pull together, we must help each other. While it’s easy for me to love my dear son and help him during this difficult time, I found that I had to help him forgive those that had wronged him. Scott and I worked diligently, and still do, to help show Zachary that all friends will not turn on you. We love him fiercely and will battle the wars on his behalf.
Once the physical pain subsided, the emotional pains were still there for Zachary. He is seeking counseling in order to help him deal with the betrayal, pain and anger.
How often do we cause emotional pain in what we say to others or by our actions? How often do we cause pain when we should be showing love and extending a hand of friendship? How quick am I to anger at another without knowing the depths of hell they have walked? My goal is to diligently spread love! Love for myself, love for my husband and children and love for my fellow man.
Amid the pain, we must love!